Once in a while, right in the middle of ordinary life, we meet someone, with whom we decide to spend our rest of the life. We call up a day when we decide to get tied in an auspicious bond with that very special person for rest of the life. Yes! We call it a Marriage!
Marriage is one of the most sacred affair amalgamating two different souls in a lifelong relation.
And when it comes about Punjabi wedding, it is a gala of innumerable events that go on for a week long! Lots of events rolling one after the other, loud music, grooving on item numbers, dhol, nagadas are the soul of any Punjabi Hindu Wedding.
Hindu Punjabi wedding is not just a function, it's a full fledged festival!
Pre wedding functions gives a kick start to the wedding season in any Punjabi house. It include variegated events which are discussed below-
Once the wedlock is finalized, the groom's family finalize the marriage by giving a token of shagun (including chunni chadhayi) to the bride and sweets are exchanged. This is an onset of a big fat Punjabi wedding.
Here the groom and bride exchange wedding bands which is just one step forward to wedlock! Tradition says that the wedding band shall be moved back to the third finger of the left hand which has a direct connection with heart. Thus, this keeps the wedding band closest to your heart!
3. MEHANDI KI RAAT
This is a night where the traditional songs are sung on dholaks by the elderly women of the house on which Punjabi ladies dance. The floral patterns and lines are made on the hands of both bride and groom.
First the mehandi is applied on hands of groom and then the same 'shagun ki mehandi' is applied on hands of the bride.
These days even performances are prepared by the sisters of bride on Bollywood songs to energies the whole event.
It is said
"Darker the color of mehandi, more the love and Stronger the bond"
4. COCKTAIL or BACHLORETTE or HEN'S PARTY
This is the last night for a groom to be a bachelor and for bride to be Spinster! So why not it shall be ended with a last party night! And this is the last night to enjoy the freedom of single-hood ;)!
ON THE PUNJABI WEDDING DAY!
1. BANGLE CEREMONY
Early in the morning, on the wedding day, a bangle ceremony takes place at the house of the bride.
Punjabi brides, both Sikh and non-Sikh wear a typical red coloured bangle known in India as a Chura. Without it, a Punjabi bride looks unmarried and incomplete.
The red and white bangles are a symbol of a "MARRIED PUNJABI WOMEN".
It is worn for a stretch of one year! During this ceremony, the bride is also made to wear Kalire, gold and silver bells in a dome shape. These are hung from her Chura by her friends and cousins.
2. HALDI KI RASAM
It is believed that-
"HALDI has power to ward off all the evil effects that may affect the bride and groom."
Otherwise, it helps in detoxifying the skin and removing the dead cells.
It is one of the most playful events where everyone in family apply HALDI on groom and bride. HALDI of groom is later washed with water bought by Sister In Law from the nearest sacred well!
Once the HALDI of groom is rinsed off, same water is sent to bride's house.
3. WEDDING NIGHT
The final day has come where two souls will be tied in a forever bond! On this event large number of friends and relatives gathering is called upon to witness this remarkable moment.
The events begins with a Var Mala and later head with 7 phere which depicts the 7 promises the bride and the groom does while talking rounds around a sacred fire. These circumambulations depict the ultimate union of the two as husband and wife together!
1. VIDAI or DOLI
Punjabi Wedding Vidai is a ritual where the bride bids goodbye to her family and leaves back her maternal home. Both the families give their blessings to the newly married couple which leads to the vidai of the bride in "taro ki chaun meh". Vidai is one of the most sentimental outburst moments of any marriage in Indian tradition. It marks the end of a bride life as a daughter and establishes her new life as a daughter-in-law.
This is the final party thrown by the newly married couple for the friends and relatives who couldn't make it to the marriage.
Lots of dance, high music and lovely smiles could be seen on faces of people around and this finally leads to the end of this long punjabi festive!!